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Every facilitator eventually faces a moment when the group gets off track. Someone dominates the conversation. A side discussion takes over. A comment lands poorly. Or the energy shifts in a way that makes it harder for others to participate. The challenge isn’t simply knowing when to redirect. It’s knowing how to do it without creating shame, embarrassment, or disconnection. Group agreements can create a foundation for psychological safety, but their real value comes from ho

Leadership often comes with an unspoken expectation: If something is wrong, fix it. For leaders working in complex, demanding systems, that mindset can become exhausting. Staffing challenges, compliance requirements, competing priorities, and constant urgency can make it feel as though there is always something else that needs your attention. But what happens when we stop believing every problem is ours to solve? One of the most powerful reflections from our recent Leadership

When someone is struggling, it can be easy to assume we know what they need. We may want to offer advice, solve the problem, or step in with what we believe will help. But trauma-informed practice asks us to pause, get curious, and let the person tell us what support looks like for them. One simple question can open that door: “What can I do to support you right now?” During our recent Trauma-Informed Motivational Interviewing coaching session, we explored how powerful this q

Crisis work asks people to carry things most others never see. The urgency. The trauma. The responsibility. The stories that stay with you long after the shift ends. For crisis clinicians, first responders, supervisors, and other frontline professionals, the work can be deeply meaningful and incredibly demanding. Over time, that weight can affect how people communicate, how they connect with one another, and how they show up at work. That is why supporting the people doing th

Leadership development can give you new knowledge, practical tools, and fresh perspectives. But then you go back to work, where the situations you were learning about are suddenly very real. There’s the difficult employee relationship. The team tension that keeps growing. The performance issue you aren't sure how to address. The staff member who is struggling. The decision you keep second-guessing. And you may find yourself thinking, “Okay, I learned the tools. Now how do I a

There is a question every supervisor should have the opportunity to answer: “What do you wish someone had taught you before you became a leader?” The answers are often surprisingly consistent. Not because every workplace is the same, but because leadership is ultimately about people. And whether you are supervising a clinical team, nonprofit staff, educators, administrators, healthcare professionals, or employees in the private sector, the human side of leadership can be comp

Leadership doesn't always happen in the big moments. Sometimes it happens in the few seconds between what someone does and how we choose to respond. During a recent Silver Linings Leadership Lab, we discussed a powerful example of trauma-informed leadership. A leader encountered an employee whose behavior was disrespectful and unprofessional. The easy response would have been to focus on the behavior and move quickly toward consequences. Instead, she paused. She noticed that

Sometimes, the most powerful change we can make in a conversation is surprisingly simple: change the question. During a recent Trauma-Informed Motivational Interviewing (TIMI) Group Coaching session, participants shared real-world examples of using motivational interviewing with youth, families, colleagues, and staff. One theme stood out: when we replace closed questions with open-ended questions, we create more room for people to tell their stories in their own words. For ex

Sometimes great facilitation means letting go of the plan. As facilitators, we spend a lot of time preparing. We build agendas, plan activities, develop presentations, and carefully consider what participants need to learn. And then the real people show up. Suddenly, the conversation takes an unexpected turn. An activity sparks a deeper discussion than anticipated. Participants need more time with one topic and less with another. A question opens the door to something importa

Sometimes the most meaningful leadership lessons don't happen in a conference room or training session. Sometimes they show up quietly. A feather caught in a dried flower. A path you somehow walked past for weeks. A heart-shaped stone sitting in cracked earth. Travel has a funny way of changing what we notice. And sometimes, what we notice in the world around us becomes a mirror for what we have been noticing, or failing to notice, within ourselves. For leaders, that awarenes

❤️🇬🇧 I didn't expect Liverpool to stay with me like this. I rode the double-decker buses 🚌, took the ferry across the Mersey ⛴️ (and yes...there was absolutely no way I was making that trip without Gerry & the Pacemakers playing in my head 😄🎶), wandered through the city, and spent hours in The Beatles Story museum. I thought I'd come away humming the songs. Truthfully...I still am. 😊 But somewhere between the ferry ride, the museum, dinner with my English friend Janet B

Leadership has changed. Today's senior leaders are navigating challenges that weren't part of the job a decade ago. They're leading through uncertainty, supporting teams experiencing burnout, managing constant change, addressing mental health concerns, and trying to create workplaces where people feel safe enough to contribute their best ideas. Technical expertise is no longer enough. The leaders who are making the greatest impact are those who know how to build trust, regula

A month ago, I came to the UK to house/dog sit for a couple of months. 🇬🇧🐾 People have asked me why. I wanted a new perspective. I wanted to step outside my comfort zone and experience life differently. What I didn't expect was how much it would stretch me. The part that surprised me most? I didn't think I was stressed. I kept telling myself, "𝘐'𝘮 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦." "𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘥." "𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦." But undernea

Most facilitators pour tremendous energy into designing meaningful learning experiences. We build agendas, create engaging activities, and carefully prepare every slide with the hope that participants leave feeling inspired and equipped to take action. But what if the greatest obstacle to transformational learning isn't the curriculum? What if it's us? Many facilitators unintentionally measure success by a simple question: "Did I get through all of my content?" While preparat

Most people think emotional intelligence is something you're either born with or without. I don't. I believe emotional intelligence is a practice. Like any leadership skill, it grows stronger through awareness, intention, and repetition. Every day gives us opportunities to strengthen it or ignore it. Before we can manage our emotions or respond thoughtfully to others, we have to notice what's happening inside ourselves. Notice when your shoulders tense before a difficult conv

Every July, Disability Pride Month invites us to celebrate the more than one billion people worldwide living with disabilities while reflecting on how we create communities, workplaces, and systems where everyone can thrive. At Silver Linings International, we believe every person brings unique strengths and perspectives. Disability Pride Month aligns with our commitment to trauma-informed practice, Appreciative Inquiry, and creating environments where everyone feels valued a

Some stories can't be told with statistics. A chart can reveal trends, and a report can summarize outcomes, but neither can fully capture what it's like to overcome adversity, navigate mental health challenges, or advocate for change. Sometimes a single photograph says what words never could. A piece of art sparks a conversation. A personal story changes the way people think. That's why approaches like PhotoVoice, storytelling, youth advisory boards, peer-led initiatives, and

Recently, I had the privilege of spending the day with an incredible group of professionals in Vancouver, Washington, facilitating a Trauma-Informed Motivational Interviewing (TIMI) training for the Council for Homelessness. While the training focused on developing practical skills and strategies, what left the greatest impression on me was the unwavering commitment these professionals bring to the young people they serve every day. For youth and young adults experiencing hou

What if one small shift could improve communication, strengthen trust, reduce workplace stress, and create a healthier team culture? Many supervisors assume leadership transformation requires major organizational changes, extensive training, or entirely new management systems. While those things can certainly help, some of the most powerful leadership shifts begin with something much simpler. A different question. The next time a staff member appears disengaged, frustrated, r

As supervisors, we've all experienced it. An employee walks into our office frustrated. Their tone is sharp. They're defensive, emotional, or angry. We try to explain the situation, but they push back. We become frustrated. They become more upset. Before long, the conversation is no longer about the original issue. Then there is another employee who appears to be the exact opposite. They insist they're fine. They volunteer for extra projects. They rarely ask for help. They ap