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Empathy is often considered one of the greatest strengths we can bring to our work. It helps us connect, understand, and respond to others with compassion. But what happens when the very thing that makes us good at our jobs begins to feel emotionally exhausting? For professionals working in human services, healthcare, crisis response, and other helping fields, this is a familiar challenge. Sometimes, what looks like a lack of empathy isn't a lack of caring at all. It may be a

What does it mean to be emotionally intelligent at work? Emotional intelligence goes beyond empathy, self-awareness, or staying calm under pressure. It involves understanding how emotions influence our behaviors, relationships, and decisions while recognizing how others experience us. On October 1, 2026, Silver Linings International partnered with the Ohio Victim Witness Association (OVWA) for Emotional Intelligence at Work: How We Show Up Matters. Led by Debra Cady and Bran

What happens when you bring colleagues together, give them space to connect, and invite them to see teamwork from a different perspective? Sometimes, even the introverts don't want the conversations to end! That was one of the memorable moments from a recent Staff Development Day facilitated by Debra Cady, LCSW, CEO of Silver Linings International, for the New York State Division of Budget, Finance and Data Management (DBFDM) in Albany, New York. The day brought together empl

Creating a workplace where people feel safe enough to speak honestly, ask questions, and offer feedback is an important part of trauma-informed leadership. But there's an important distinction leaders sometimes struggle with: A brave space is not an anything-goes space. In our recent Leadership Lab, we explored what happens when the desire to create openness begins to collide with the realities of leadership. What happens when an employee wants to ask more questions, but the

Facilitators often talk about creating safe and brave spaces. But what does that look like when we already know the subject matter may bring up difficult emotions or personal experiences? A content warning can be helpful, but creating safety requires more than telling people that something difficult is coming. It means giving people permission and options. Participants may need to step away, turn off their camera, take a break, or simply listen for a while. When those options

When someone is hesitant to move forward, our instinct may be to push a little harder. We explain the benefits. We offer another solution. We remind them of the urgency. And when we work in environments where time and resources are limited, getting someone to take the next step can feel especially important. But what if resistance isn't something we need to overcome? What if it's information? This was an important theme in a recent Trauma-Informed Motivational Interviewing c

Last week, I had the privilege of giving the keynote at the 30th Annual Wisconsin Crisis Intervention Conference, “The Weight We Carry.” It was an opportunity to talk about something that deserves far more attention: the emotional weight carried by the people who spend their days helping others through difficult moments. Crisis professionals, first responders, clinicians, supervisors, and others working in high-stress environments are constantly responding, problem-solving, s

We’re excited to share that our Founder and CEO, Debra Cady, LCSW, was recently published by the New York State Trauma-Informed Network and Resource Center! NY State Trauma-Informed Network When people hear the term emotional intelligence, they often think it is something you either have or do not. My experience has taught me something different. After years of working with leaders in healthcare, education, human services, government, and nonprofit organizations, research an

Every facilitator eventually faces a moment when the group gets off track. Someone dominates the conversation. A side discussion takes over. A comment lands poorly. Or the energy shifts in a way that makes it harder for others to participate. The challenge isn’t simply knowing when to redirect. It’s knowing how to do it without creating shame, embarrassment, or disconnection. Group agreements can create a foundation for psychological safety, but their real value comes from ho

Leadership often comes with an unspoken expectation: If something is wrong, fix it. For leaders working in complex, demanding systems, that mindset can become exhausting. Staffing challenges, compliance requirements, competing priorities, and constant urgency can make it feel as though there is always something else that needs your attention. But what happens when we stop believing every problem is ours to solve? One of the most powerful reflections from our recent Leadership

When someone is struggling, it can be easy to assume we know what they need. We may want to offer advice, solve the problem, or step in with what we believe will help. But trauma-informed practice asks us to pause, get curious, and let the person tell us what support looks like for them. One simple question can open that door: “What can I do to support you right now?” During our recent Trauma-Informed Motivational Interviewing coaching session, we explored how powerful this q

Crisis work asks people to carry things most others never see. The urgency. The trauma. The responsibility. The stories that stay with you long after the shift ends. For crisis clinicians, first responders, supervisors, and other frontline professionals, the work can be deeply meaningful and incredibly demanding. Over time, that weight can affect how people communicate, how they connect with one another, and how they show up at work. That is why supporting the people doing th

Leadership development can give you new knowledge, practical tools, and fresh perspectives. But then you go back to work, where the situations you were learning about are suddenly very real. There’s the difficult employee relationship. The team tension that keeps growing. The performance issue you aren't sure how to address. The staff member who is struggling. The decision you keep second-guessing. And you may find yourself thinking, “Okay, I learned the tools. Now how do I a

There is a question every supervisor should have the opportunity to answer: “What do you wish someone had taught you before you became a leader?” The answers are often surprisingly consistent. Not because every workplace is the same, but because leadership is ultimately about people. And whether you are supervising a clinical team, nonprofit staff, educators, administrators, healthcare professionals, or employees in the private sector, the human side of leadership can be comp

Leadership doesn't always happen in the big moments. Sometimes it happens in the few seconds between what someone does and how we choose to respond. During a recent Silver Linings Leadership Lab, we discussed a powerful example of trauma-informed leadership. A leader encountered an employee whose behavior was disrespectful and unprofessional. The easy response would have been to focus on the behavior and move quickly toward consequences. Instead, she paused. She noticed that

Sometimes, the most powerful change we can make in a conversation is surprisingly simple: change the question. During a recent Trauma-Informed Motivational Interviewing (TIMI) Group Coaching session, participants shared real-world examples of using motivational interviewing with youth, families, colleagues, and staff. One theme stood out: when we replace closed questions with open-ended questions, we create more room for people to tell their stories in their own words. For ex

Sometimes great facilitation means letting go of the plan. As facilitators, we spend a lot of time preparing. We build agendas, plan activities, develop presentations, and carefully consider what participants need to learn. And then the real people show up. Suddenly, the conversation takes an unexpected turn. An activity sparks a deeper discussion than anticipated. Participants need more time with one topic and less with another. A question opens the door to something importa

Sometimes the most meaningful leadership lessons don't happen in a conference room or training session. Sometimes they show up quietly. A feather caught in a dried flower. A path you somehow walked past for weeks. A heart-shaped stone sitting in cracked earth. Travel has a funny way of changing what we notice. And sometimes, what we notice in the world around us becomes a mirror for what we have been noticing, or failing to notice, within ourselves. For leaders, that awarenes

❤️🇬🇧 I didn't expect Liverpool to stay with me like this. I rode the double-decker buses 🚌, took the ferry across the Mersey ⛴️ (and yes...there was absolutely no way I was making that trip without Gerry & the Pacemakers playing in my head 😄🎶), wandered through the city, and spent hours in The Beatles Story museum. I thought I'd come away humming the songs. Truthfully...I still am. 😊 But somewhere between the ferry ride, the museum, dinner with my English friend Janet B

Leadership has changed. Today's senior leaders are navigating challenges that weren't part of the job a decade ago. They're leading through uncertainty, supporting teams experiencing burnout, managing constant change, addressing mental health concerns, and trying to create workplaces where people feel safe enough to contribute their best ideas. Technical expertise is no longer enough. The leaders who are making the greatest impact are those who know how to build trust, regula