"If you haven't healed it, every time you think about a negative event from your past, your body produces the exact same chemicals in the body as when it happened. That means you relive the experience hundreds of times simply because you haven't let it go." ~ Unknown
Letting go is a hard thing to do, but letting go for now until you are in the right space to deal with it, is not. Each time a negative thought or memory comes into your mind, consciously notice it. Say something like, "hi there thoughts, how interesting that you are visiting me today. That is a most fascinating thought you are sharing with me...the commentary on what I am or am not doing right now is equally fascinating. Thank you for coming, but right now I'm busy doing something else, so if you could just file that into my archives, I can work on that later with my therapist."
Yes, I am telling you to talk to yourself, and it's better to have this as an inner dialogue, but if you wish to speak these words out loud to hush the "Debbie Downer", go right ahead. The quicker you can stop the negative intrusive thoughts, the sooner your body will stop producing those stress hormones.
Even if you let those thoughts go on for a bit, at any point in time, you can have this internal dialogue, stop the thoughts, put them in a "time-out corner", and move on.
Your body will follow your mind...so take a quick walk, write in your journal, sing along with your favorite song or do something, ANYTHING positivity different in that moment. This will change the way your body reacts and will help you recover from re-experiencing the past to living safely in the present moment. Until you change your thinking, you will keep re-experiencing your past.
If you have trauma or other mental health wellness needs, please go to a qualified mental health professional and get some help. We all need different kinds of help at different points in our lives. It's true for me, probably true for you too. Mental health professionals are trained in evidenced-based treatments and can give you more skills and insight to manage your past trauma.
You'll still need this simple mindfulness letting-go exercise. It's a mental skill you can use on a daily basis to help you move forward and not get stuck in the past and create a new, improved version of yourself.
You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Make it good.
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"It's no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then." ~ Alice in Wonderland.
